Cases of autism are being diagnosed more frequently than ever before. Chances are, you know someone who has a child that is somewhere "on the spectrum".  Autism has a profound effect on families. Understanding the effect of autism on a family can help you be a better support to those you love and care for.

Disappointed Hopes

When the diagnosis is new, parents suffer from a sense of loss and grief. Hopes and dreams for their child seem to vanish, replaced by worry and fear. Siblings can feel uncertain about the future and their place in the family. As families come to understand the condition, expectations are adjusted.

Finding Time for Everyone

Many families are concerned that having an autistic child will rob other family members of love, time, and attention. Parents worry about siblings and couples worry about their relationship with their partner. Most parents move heaven and earth to ensure that brothers and sisters of autistic children receive plenty of time and attention. New studies report siblings of autistic children are well adjusted, mature, and compassionate, often more so that their peers from families that do not face the challenges of autism. Marriages need constant care. Mothers are usually the custodians and advocates of their autistic child’s care and treatment. It is emotionally and physically draining. Couples who successfully navigate these difficult challenges make time for each other and themselves.

Keep on Doing Things as a Family

Autistic children can be disruptive and some families avoid public places. As awareness of autism grows, there is hope for a more understanding and accommodating public. In the meantime, family adventures are still important. Making good memories together is essential.

Make and Keep Friends

Families with autistic children report that their social life takes a big hit. Going out and having fun with friends and family is important, but can be uncomfortable when people stare or make judgmental comments. Don’t be surprised if the parent of an autistic child tells you that they have everything under control. They probably do.